Iza Calzado, ibinahagi ang matinding guilt nang iwanan ang anak para sa isa pang obligasyon

• Iza Calzado opened up about grappling with severe mom guilt as she gradually returns to the entertainment industry
• The 43-year-old actress revealed a heartbreaking moment when her daughter Deia was left without a parent during an activity
• Calzado emphasized that she rejected an invitation to an event in Los Angeles just to fulfill her promise to her daughter
• Despite her demanding schedule, the actress makes an effort to show up for even just 30 minutes to ensure her daughter feels her presence

Amid her highly anticipated return to the entertainment industry, veteran actress Iza Calzado candidly admitted the emotional toll and deep struggles she faces while balancing her career and her duties as a mother to her only child, Deia.

The 43-year-old actress shared that now that she is slowly accepting new projects, there is a different kind of challenge whenever she leaves for work. Choosing to prioritize her family over the past few years, Calzado expressed zero regrets about stepping back from the limelight, though the transition back to set has proven to be an emotional hurdle.

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“Siyempre kasi ang sarap ni Deia ka-bonding. Privilege para sa akin na mostly ako pa rin ‘yung nakakapag-patulog sa kanya sa gabi. ‘Yung I can get a lot of time with her. It’s been three and a half years. Siyempre unti-unti na akong bumabalik din sa trabaho. Bumabalik naman ako sa trabaho nun pero iba kasi ‘yung phase ngayon eh. Mas may muwang na siya, mas alam niya na. Ayaw niya talagang humiwalay sa akin. I feel so needed! Now, nandun na kami sa part ng kanyang development where she always wants to be with me. But again, iba ‘yung reality eh, ‘di ba? ‘Pag may taping, mas madami kang time away,” says Calzado.

Currently starring in the upcoming Cinemalaya film entry Hand of God, Calzado revealed that filming in Basilan for four days triggered a heavy wave of guilt, prompting her to decline overseas opportunities, including an event in Los Angeles, just to keep her word to Deia.

“Parang na-gi-guilty ka, ‘Tama ba na umalis ako?’ Pero you have to find also the times where you have to give yourself a pat on the back where you can celebrate. Gaya ng umalis ako minsan tapos iniisip ko if I will extend this trip. But I said, you know what, it’s the first time I’m going out of the country and I told Deia I’d be home on a Saturday. So ang unang tanong ko sa kanya, ‘Kailan babalik si mama?’ Sabi niya, ‘Saturday!’ Ah sabi ko hindi ako mag-e-extend. And parang may event sa LA na pinapapunta nila ako. Sabi ko, I’m so sorry. Parang ang mahalaga sa akin ngayon is to keep my word sa anak ko. I may not always succeed in doing that because life happens, but I know that in that very moment I was able to make that choice. At least hindi niya iisipin na moving forward, kung hindi man ako makauwi ay hindi ‘yun ‘yung naumpisahang sistema,” the actress explained.

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The actress further shared that the feeling of inadequacy creeps in during minor disruptions to their routine, as well as moments when both she and her husband, Ben Wintle, are absent from family activities.

“Parang ‘pag hindi ko siya napatulog, masama ang loob ko. ‘Pag napuyat din siya, may guilt din ako kung mali ba ito? ‘ wala ako sa bahay, ‘pag chinoose ko na mag-stay longer dito, na-gi-guilty ako. Madalas eh. Halimbawa, may mga co-parents kayo, kumbaga may mga tropa na kayo, may community kayo, and then magkakasama sila let’s say sa football field. And every child had a parent. Nangyari ‘yan nung isang beses, mang-ilan beses, si Deia lang ‘yung walang parent na kasama kasi pareho kaming busy ni Ben. Buti na lang nandun ‘yung mga in-laws namin, sila Bianca, and or si Ralph, there was always one with ‘yung pinsan ni Deia. And then other mom friends and dad friends and their children,” she said.

To combat this, Calzado goes to great lengths to show up for her daughter, even if it means sacrificing her work breaks just to see Deia for a few brief moments.

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“Kaya sinikap ko talaga kahit na alam ko ang dami ko pang kailangan gawin nun. Parang break muna, bye kayo diyan kasi hahabol ako. Kahit 30 minutes to show up. Parang gagawan ko talaga ng paraan. Gusto ko maramdaman niya na nandun kami, hindi man lagi. Kasi may guilt na baka isipin ng anak ko bakit hindi kami binibigyan ng ganitong oras ng magulang namin?” the actress added.

Iza Calzado is an award-winning Filipino actress, television host, and model celebrated for her powerful dramatic performances in film and television. She is widely recognized for her iconic role as Amihan in the hit fantasy series Encantadia and her critically acclaimed work in films like Sigaw and Bliss.

In another report, Iza Calzado honored the memory of her late mother, Mary Ann, on what would have been her birthday, which coincides with the Philippines' Independence Day celebration on June 12. The actress shared throwback photos and reflected on how deeply she misses her mother, adding that she wishes they had more time together, especially now that she has become a parent.

Meanwhile, Iza Calzado paid tribute to her longtime friend Jodi Sta. Maria, whom she said she has admired since the Tabing Ilog days. The actress looked back on a promise they made to each other while filming Ang Sa Iyo Ay Akin. Iza also encouraged her followers to watch Jodi's film Midnight Girls, describing her performance as "brilliant" as always.

Source: KAMI.com.gh