Maxene Magalona tackles “stay for the kids” argument against divorce

- Maxene Magalona expressed support for the legalization of divorce in the Philippines, arguing that staying in dysfunctional marriages harms children

- She believes toxic home environments negatively impact children's mental health and perceptions of relationships

- Rob Manquil’s ex-wife called for divorce to allow families to heal and grow independently

- Furthermore, she urged separated couples to avoid conflict and pray for mutual healing

Actress and mental health advocate Maxene Magalona has voiced her support for the legalization of divorce in the Philippines. In a heartfelt Instagram post, she addressed the commonly cited "stay for the kids" argument against divorce, urging for a reevaluation of this mindset.

Maxene acknowledged the concern that children might be affected by their parents' separation. However, she argued that children are equally if not more, affected when forced to live in a dysfunctional household, emphasizing the long-term mental health impacts on children raised in toxic environments.

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The former wife of Rob Manquil also highlighted that children from such households may grow up with skewed perceptions of love and normalcy in relationships. She pointed out the potential for these children to face mental health struggles and perpetuate a cycle of dysfunction in their own future relationships.

Addressing the fear of "broken families" should divorce become legal, Maxene countered that staying in a harmful marriage can be more destructive. She stressed that divorce can provide a pathway to peace, allowing family members to heal and grow independently while maintaining a loving relationship from a distance.

She also urged separated couples to avoid conflict, particularly in front of their children, and to refrain from speaking ill of one another. Instead, she encouraged them to pray for each other's healing and the overall well-being of their families.

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In her closing remarks, Maxene called on lawmakers to legalize divorce, framing it as a necessary step towards healing and providing relief for many suffering families.

Here is her full statement:

“‘Stay for the kids.’

“This is what most people tell married couples who are considering to get a separation or annulment because their relationship has already become too dysfunctional. I understand that the children are going to be affected if and when their parents decide to end their marriage.

“However, they will ALSO be affected when a dysfunctional couple forces themselves to stay together just for the sake of the kids. When the couple has already lost all love and respect for each other and end up becoming enemies, they will constantly project negative energy onto each other which they will absorb and pass on to the children as well. Believe me—it’s a toxic and vicious cycle.

“Whether we like it or not, children who are raised in dysfunctional and toxic homes will struggle with mental health issues when they grow up. They will grow up believing that it is normal to fight and shout when they have their own relationships. While it is okay to have arguments with your spouse every once in a while, it is very unhealthy and irresponsible to fight, scream at and physically abuse each other in front of your kids on a regular basis. The kids will be confused as to what “love” really is.

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“So please, don’t be afraid that if and when divorce becomes legalized in the Philippines that children will have “broken families” because if couples who hate each other decide to stay and force to make the marriage work, their toxic energy will break and destroy the family even more. Divorce brings peace as it allows everyone in the family to have the chance to heal and grow while loving each other from afar. The parents just have to do their best to communicate and explain their situation properly to their children.

“I also urge all couples who are seeking divorce to STOP fighting especially when you’re already broken up. Do not badmouth your spouses to your children and instead, pray for them. Pray for the healing of your whole family.

“It’s time for the Philippines to heal. Please legalize divorce so that the broken and wounded families can have the chance to be free from pain and suffering and finally have inner peace.”

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Maxene Magalona is an actress and social media star in the Philippines. Her father is the late rap legend Francis Magalona. The actress revealed in May 2020 that she has been seeing a psychiatrist due to her mental illness. She used to be married to Rob Manquil, but they have already broken up and gone their separate ways. She is now busy being a yoga instructor and focusing on other worthwhile interests in life.

As previously reported by KAMI, Maxene Magalona shared insights on Instagram about the connection between mental and emotional health. She stressed the importance of processing emotions for mental clarity and healing. The actor noted that mental and emotional health are intertwined and essential for overall well-being.

Meanwhile, Maxene Magalona recently stirred some buzz on social media with her latest online post. On her Instagram page, Maxene had posted a video of herself singing a familiar song. Netizens were then serenaded by Maxene's voice as she sang "Cold Summer Nights" by her father. Needless to say, many netizens flocked to compliment Maxene's voice.

Source: KAMI.com.gh