John Arcilla on taking care of elderly parents: “Natural na duty ng anak”
- John Arcilla shared insights on children supporting their aging parents, sparked by Dani Barretto's viral comments
- The actor emphasized the natural duty of offspring to care for their parents, rejecting the notion of such support as a debt
- He also highlighted the cyclical nature of familial relationships, where caregiving roles evolve over time
- Nonetheless, John clarified that it is a different matter for children who were abused, treated badly, or neglected by their parents
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Renowned actor John Arcilla recently took to Facebook to offer his perspective on the topic of children providing financial support to their aging parents. His remarks come amidst a viral discussion sparked by Dani Barretto's assertion that such support should be voluntary and not seen as a debt of gratitude.
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John emphasized that terminologies like "utang na loob" (debt of gratitude) and "obligasyon" (obligation) are inadequate when discussing the relationship between parents and their children.
He believes that nurturing and aiding aging parents are not matters of indebtedness or obligation but rather natural duties incumbent upon offspring. He stressed the reciprocity inherent in familial relationships, pointing out that just as parents care for their children when they are vulnerable, it is the children's responsibility to reciprocate that care when their parents are elderly and in need.
However, John clarified that it is a different matter for children who were abused, treated badly, or neglected by their parents.
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“On Parent-Children Realtionship. This is not a rebuttal to anyone, this is just my take on Parent-Children Relationship generally speaking. ‘Utang na loob’ and ‘Obligasyon’ are wrong words pag ang usapan ay mga MAGULANG na ating PINANGGALINGAN…
”Hindi naman talaga utang na loob o obligasyon ang Pagkupkop o pagtulong sa mga tumatandang magulang- dahil ito ay NORMAL at NATURAL na DUTY ng MGA ANAK. Kasing NATURAL at NORMAL nung inaalagaan nila tayo nung maliit pa. Pinakain, dinamitan iginapang, at pinag aral. Tama naman na Responsibilidad yun ng mga magulang sa walang muwang na mga anak, KAYA RESPONSIBILIDAD din ng BAWAT anak na alagaan at ARUGAIN ang mga magulang pag matatanda na, mahihina na at wala ng LAKAS at RESOURCES para MAGTRABAHO at asikasuhin ang sarili. katulad natin nung INALAGAAN AT TINUSTUSAN pa nila nung sanggol tayo kasi hindi pa natin kayang alagaan at tustusan ang ating sarili, hanggang sa makatapos ng PAG AARAL. THAT IS THE NORMAL CYCLE of LIFE. Tayo bilang tao ay tagapag ALAGA at tagapag-taguyod ng mas mahina kaysa sa atin, maging hayop man ito o kapwa tao - e di lalo na pag magulang na natin ang mahina na at nangangailangan na ng tulong. Hindi na dapat nagiging issue yon.
“Ngayon, kung naging masama silang magulang o pinamigay nila tayo sa ibang tao - ibang level ng kwento yun- dun lang siguro magkakaroon ng iba’t ibang PAMANTAYAN kung RESPONSIBILIDAD pa din ba sila ng mga anak. UNDERSTANDABLE naman na nagiging issue ito pag wala tayong panahon at wala tayong pangtustos. MINSAN nagiging issue pa ito ng magkakapatid. Ang panahon ay hindi pwedeng gawing excuse, sa usaping pera, magugutom tayong pareho ng magulang natin pag wala tayong pera, at kakain tayong pareho pag may kita. Ang mahalaga ay may kasama siyang tumatawid sa natitira niyang buhay. Sa ibang bansa gaya ng Korea, may ‘reward’ ang mga anak na nag aalaga ng kanilang mga Magulang. Pero GENERALLY SPEAKING, OBLIGAHIN MAN NILA TAYO O HINDI, RESPONSIBILIDAD NATIN SILA - yun ang NORMAL. Yun ang NATURAL na cycle ng buhay. KAYA nga dapat habang lumalaki ang tao at nangangarap, kasama sa plano natin at ng ating mga kapatid kung paano aalagaan ang mga magulang natin pag tanda nila. KASI AMININ MO, pag tanda natin Gusto din nating makita ang mga anak natin sa ating tabi, makasama sila hanggang sa huling sandali.
“Nahirap man sabihin o AMININ gusto natin na sila ang MAG ALAGA at magbantay sa atin kaysa IBANG TAO, hanggang tayo ay malagutan ng HININGA, na posibleng hindi mangyari KUNG HABANG LUMALAKI ANG MGA ANAK NATIN AY HINDI NAMAN NILA NAKIKITA NA INA-ALAGAAN NATIN ANG ating mga MAGULANG. Ano ang kanilang magiging HALIMBAWA at BASEHAN, kung ang ating responsibilidad at duty sa ating mga magulang ay hindi natin ginagawa SA HALIP AY KONUKWESTION PA NATIN? Mas malamang magiging ganun din sa atin ang ating mga anak. Kaya kung pinapangarap din nating makasama at alagaan tayo ng ating mga anak. Ipakita natin sa kanila na NORMAL at NATURAL ang PAG ALAGA AT PAG ARUGA NG ATING MGA MAGULANG.”
John Arcilla, whose full name is Romeo Gonzales Arcilla, is an acclaimed actor and environmentalist from the Philippines. He is best known for playing the lead role of Antonio Luna in the historical drama, 'Heneral Luna'. John won the Best Actor Award at the 78th Venice Film Festival for his lead role in the film ‘On the Job: The Missing 8.’
Previously, the actor went viral after he opened up about the death of his father, Dominador Arcilla, at the age of 86. The actor clarified that his beloved father did not die because of COVID-19. He stated that the lockdown made his father’s death even more painful because he and his siblings were not able to bury their father since he died in Baler.
KAMI also reported that John, who played the main antagonist, Renato Hipolito, in the action drama series, 'FPJ's Ang Probinsyano' recently answered some questions regarding the teleserye. One of the questions the actor addressed was a popular comment about how people never run out of bullets in the series.
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