I Discovered My Girlfriend's Affair After My Tumour Surgery and Ended Our Five-Year Relationship
I found the messages three weeks after my tumour surgery, on a night when my body felt heavier than my bones could hold. I needed a charger, so I reached for Rina's phone because mine had slipped between the sofa cushions. The screen lit up with a notification. A heart emoji. Then another message preview, one that sliced straight through the fog of pain pills.
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"I miss last night already."
My breath stalled. The room blurred. I tapped the screen before I could talk myself out of it. The thread opened like a wound. Rina Santos' words were tender in ways she had not been with me in months. She wrote about how alive he made her feel. How understood. How seen.
My chest tightened until I thought the stitches along my side might split open. I reread each message, willing them to turn into something else. A misunderstanding. A joke. Something harmless.
But the truth lay there in small glowing bubbles. My girlfriend had built a world with someone else while sitting beside my hospital bed, brushing my hair back from my forehead, telling me she was not going anywhere.
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I sat there for nearly an hour, phone in hand, trying to swallow the taste of betrayal that flooded my mouth. I thought surgery had been the hardest pain I would ever endure. I was wrong.
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Doctors can remove a tumour. But discovering the person you trust most has already left you emotionally, while your body is still healing, is a different kind of devastation.
By the time Rina walked into the room, humming softly, I knew everything had changed.
Before all this, Rina and I had been together long enough to know each other's favourite foods, weekend habits, and the rhythms of each other's moods. She knew I preferred silence in the mornings. I knew she needed a cup of salabat before facing the world. We were not perfect, but for years, I believed we were safe.
When I received the tumour diagnosis, everything shifted. Suddenly, life felt fragile. I had no choice but to surrender my days to tests, scans and consultations. Rina insisted she would be with me through it all. She took time off work whenever she could, brought me warm meals, and sat beside me during hospital appointments in Quezon City.
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Sometimes she looked tired, even distant, but I convinced myself it was the stress of watching someone she loved suffer. I did not want to look too closely at that distance because I feared what I might find.
After the surgery, recovery was brutal. My body felt like it belonged to someone else. Every movement hurt. I needed help with simple tasks. On some days, Rina was incredible. She refilled my medications, rubbed my aching back, and reassured me that the worst was behind us.
On other days, she arrived late, distracted, or emotionally absent. There were moments I sensed something slipping between us, something silent and unspoken.
Before the surgery, we had already struggled with emotional distance. Rina often said I withdrew when stressed. I believed she became restless when life grew too quiet. We never fully resolved those patterns. Instead, we carried them into the hardest period of our lives.
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I had hoped that my vulnerability after surgery would pull us closer. I imagined Rina would be all in, the way people in love become when life threatens to shake them apart.
Instead, something else took root; a thing I did not yet understand.
The first sign came two weeks into my treatment sessions at a Manila clinic. Rina was late picking me up. Not just late, but over an hour late. I sat in the waiting room, dizzy and nauseous, watching families greet their loved ones with blankets and gentle hands.
When Rina finally arrived, she looked flustered. Her hair was wind-swept, her shirt not quite tucked in. She apologised, said something urgent had caught her up. I tried to smile; I tried to be understanding, but a knot formed in my stomach.
The second sign came a few days later. Rina cancelled her evening visit, claiming she felt unwell. I offered to send her some soup. She refused quickly, almost too quickly. "I just need sleep," she said. Her voice sounded distant; she was somehow relieved to end the call.
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The third sign came when she left her phone unlocked on my bedside table. A notification popped up with a name I did not recognise. The message preview said: "Same time tomorrow?" I ignored it then. I told myself it must be work-related. Rina worked with clients, schedules and meetings. It made sense. Or I made it make sense.
But the signs kept piling up.
On another day, after a particularly exhausting check-in with my doctor, Rina seemed distracted during our conversation. Her eyes drifted to her phone often, her responses slow and distracted. I asked if everything was alright. She said yes, but her body said something else.
She hugged me tightly before leaving, but her embrace felt rushed, like something urgent pulled her away.
One night, alone in my apartment in Mandaluyong, I could not sleep. Pain pulsed through my stitches, and anxiety throbbed beneath it. Rina had texted me that she could not visit because she had errands to run. At midnight, she still had not messaged again.
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A disturbing thought crossed my mind. What if Rina were with someone else? I hated myself for even wondering. I hated how vulnerable I felt. I hated how dependent I was on her presence when she was no longer fully there.
When she finally visited the next day, she left her phone charging while she stepped outside to take a call. The screen lit up. The same unfamiliar Filipino-sounding name flashed again.
My guilt battled with my fear. I told myself not to look. I told myself I was only being paranoid.
But then another message came in, and this time the preview read: "Last night was…", and then it cut off.
I picked up the phone. My hands trembled. My heart raced like it was trying to escape the truth I was about to find.
I opened the thread.
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The messages hid their meaning, but their intimacy pressed so close it stole my breath. They talked about long walks, inside jokes, and shared moments. About how the stranger made her laugh. About how she felt understood. Rina had written, "When I am with you, I feel alive. When I am with him, I feel drained."
They never mentioned me, but I did not need it to be.
When she walked back into the room, she saw the phone in my hand. Her face changed. Her body tensed.
"Eli Ramirez," she said quietly. "What are you doing?"
My voice cracked. "What is this? Who is he?"
She closed her eyes and took a breath.
And that was when the world began to unravel.
Rina did not deny anything. She did not scramble for excuses or try to tug her phone away from me. She sat down on the edge of the bed, clasped her hands together, and said, "I needed someone who did not make me feel guilty for wanting more."
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Her words stunned me. I waited for anger, denial or some form of justification that made sense. Instead, she continued calmly, almost sadly.
"I never planned to leave you," she said. "This was never about escaping our relationship. I just needed a space where I could breathe."
I stared at her, trying to make sense of it. She explained that the man was a colleague from her office in Ortigas, whom she had grown close to during my illness. She insisted the relationship was emotional, not physical. She said she met him for walks, coffee, and long talks. She said he made her feel like she was more than a caregiver.
"When you were sick," she said, "I felt trapped. I felt like if I wanted anything for myself, I was betraying you."
Her voice cracked a little. "I put my dreams on hold. I stopped everything to be strong for you. But I was hurting too, Eli. And he reminded me of who I used to be."
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Those words pierced me more deeply than anything I had read in the messages. I realised then that our relationship had been struggling long before my diagnosis. The cracks were there. We ignored them because life was easier when we pretended they did not exist.
My surgery had not created the distance between us. It had only exposed it.
I felt anger. I felt grief. I felt betrayal. But beneath all that, I felt something unexpected: devastating clarity.
Rina was not the villain in a simple story. She was a flawed human caught between fear, duty and desire. And so was I.
And that truth made everything harder.
We sat in silence for a long time. The weight of Rina's confession settled between us like dust after a shattered window. I stared at the floor, unable to match my breathing to the reality I now faced.
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I had imagined Rina and me walking through my recovery together. I had imagined her hand in mine during every milestone. I had imagined us rebuilding our lives once the fear had passed.
But now, every image felt tainted.
Finally, I spoke. "I cannot pretend this did not happen. I cannot go back to normal."
Rina nodded slowly. Her eyes were red, but she did not cry. She looked exhausted, like she had been carrying the truth for too long.
"I do not want to lose you," she said quietly.
"You already left," I replied. "Maybe not physically. But emotionally."
She flinched as if I had struck her. I hated hurting her, but the words were genuine. She had given part of herself to someone else while I lay in hospital gowns and cold rooms, fighting to heal. And she had done it because she felt suffocated by the weight of caring for me.
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I could not fault her for needing support. But I could not accept betrayal as the price of my survival.
"I think," I said slowly, "that we need a break. Not a final break-up. Not a punishment. Just... space. I need to heal without wondering if the person I love is looking elsewhere. And you need to figure out what you want that has nothing to do with obligation."
Rina began to cry then. Soft, restrained sobs. She nodded through them. "Maybe you are right," she whispered.
We decided she would move out for a while. We agreed we would revisit our relationship when both of us had space to breathe. I did not know whether we would find our way back to each other. Part of me hoped so. Part of me feared it.
But I knew this: I could not recover from surgery while holding onto someone who saw me as a burden.
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And if we were to rebuild our relationship, it would have to stand on new ground. Honest ground. Ground where both of us were allowed to be imperfect without seeking comfort in someone else.
When I look back now, I realise the tumour was not the only thing that nearly destroyed me. The greater threat was the slow, quiet erosion of trust between Rina and me. Illness magnified our flaws. It made our unspoken resentments visible. It forced both of us to confront truths we had refused to see.
Rina sought comfort elsewhere because she felt unseen. I withdrew because I feared burdening her. We both made mistakes that collided at the worst possible time.
But recovery taught me something essential: love cannot survive on sacrifice alone. Nor can it thrive when one partner carries the weight of two people's fears.
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I learned that being cared for does not mean surrendering your partner's right to their own life. And loving someone through illness does not erase the fractures that existed before the diagnosis.
The affair hurt deeply, but it also revealed truths I needed to face. It forced me to build boundaries, to reclaim my healing as my own responsibility, and to recognise that vulnerability should not come at the cost of dignity.
The biggest lesson was this: if someone chooses to step outside the relationship during your weakest moment, they expose their struggle, not your weakness.
The question that remains, the one I still ask myself, is simple:
If love cannot hold during the hardest chapters, was it ever strong enough to survive the rest?
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