- Having a tantrums or disobeying you is a normal behavior of a kid
- They aren't aware of what they're doing, if it's good or bad
- You can't expect kids to behave like older kids because they're still young and immature.
KAMI learned about this from Asiaparent Philippines. It is normal for parents to get angry at their child especially when a child gets more wild if you didn't give what they want. However, getting angry all the time isn't good for both you and your child.
Anger isn't something that should be a part of your parenting vocabulary. As a parent, it's important to make sure your child grows in an environment where they can feel loved, nurtured, and cared for.
Being a parent, it's okay to get angry because it's unavoidable. What's not okay is when you direct it towards your child. They are very insensitive especially when it comes to their parents.
Even grown ups feel bad when their parents suddenly got angry to them and even shouted at them. For kids, it's much more intense since they look up to their parents for everything. This can also affect them when they grow up since they will carry those feelings of hurt and sadness with them.
If you see your child drawing on the walls of your house, don't react by shouting at them or hitting their hand. Keep calm, take a few breaths and think about what you want to tell your child. Be firm, but don't shout at them. Don't call your child names, and don't make decisions such as punishments when you're angry.
Controlling your anger also shows your kids that you can calm down and control your emotions. It lets them know that anger is something within their control, and they shouldn't let it get the better of them.
Here are a few pointers to remember:
- Keep calm. This is always something that you should keep in mind whenever you feel that you're starting to get angry or frustrated.
- Take a moment to clear your thoughts. Sometimes, you need to just get away from the entire situation for a bit in order to clear your head. Go to your room, or even the bathroom and have 5 minutes to yourself so you can keep calm.
- Listen to your anger. Try to understand why you're getting angry, and don't simply act upon your anger.
- Getting angry at your child can make everything worse, so don't express your anger towards your child. Focus it on something productive.
- Wait before giving punishments. Giving your child a punishment while you're angry is a recipe for disaster. Wait until you're calm before deciding on what to do.
- Never ever hurt your child. Hurting your child is wrong, and should never be a part of your parenting.
- Don't make threats. Instead of threats, make sure to tell your child that you'll be thinking of a consequence of their actions. This helps you keep calm, and lets your child understand the severity of what they did.
- Seek counseling. Sometimes you really can't deal with your anger all by yourself and seeking help for your anger issues is important if you want to be a better parent.
KAMI wants to remind every parents that there are more ways on how to discipline your child.