- Maricar Reyes shared his experience which made her realize how a simple text message with another man can affect her relationship
- According to her, a harmless exchange of text message can ruin a relationship
- She also shared their secret to stay away from temptations
Maricar Reyes shared the secrets for keeping a relationship strong and avoid temptations. The couple Maricar and Richard continue to inspire many netizens with their happy marriage life.
Without the efforts coming from both parties, a relationship might just be ruined by a third party.
In her latest blog entry on RelationshipMatters.ph, Maricar pointed out how some 'harmless' acts could actually pose a threat to a relationship.
She recounted one of her past experience when she unconsciously committed “emotional cheating.”“Years ago, I had a boyfriend and our relationship was having problems.
“Then a common friend introduced me to Steve (not his real name) at a party.
She then explained how she enjoyed even a simple conversation with 'Steve.'
“I enjoyed talking to Steve that night, relieved to be away from the problems I had with my boyfriend.
“Days after, we exchanged some ‘harmless’ messages: ‘Stuck in traffic! What u doing?’, ‘Hey I just passed by your school!’ , ‘Know any good restos in QC?’ , ‘Bored! ‘Musta?’
“I didn’t want to admit it back then, but Steve’s messages weren’t ordinary to me.
“May konting kilig, so I felt guilty.
She even tried to free herself from guilt by rationalizing things.
“I’d make myself feel better by thinking, ‘I’m not doing anything wrong. Steve is just a friend.’”
But that kind of self-excuse is already a sign of emotional cheating.
Maricar started to enjoy her 'friend's' text message.
“I looked forward to Steve’s messages more than my boyfriend’s. I was becoming emotionally tangled with Steve. Looking back, this wasn’t as harmless as I thought.
It occurred to her that she was doing something wrong when she tried standing in her boyfriend's shoes.
“Would I be OK if my boyfriend was exchanging messages with a girl that he had some ‘kilig’ for? It’s absolutely NOT OK…"
This experience served as a reminder for her and her husband Richard to be careful with this vulnerability.
“Today, stories like mine remind Richard and I of how vulnerable we are to feel-good emotions like kilig…”
The coupple tries “to guard each other against increasing levels of emotional attachment to another person, especially in a committed relationship.”
They try to be honest when one of them finds someone “attractive".
“Admitting the truth makes the kilig emotions less powerful. Hiding it from each other makes them stronger!
“We also help each other keep our distance, and make sure we don’t have long conversations alone with the ‘attractive’ person.”
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