A home is said to be headed by a man. It is his sole responsibility to take care of his family and look after their immediate needs.
Men feel it is entirely their duty to provide for their family members and this thought seems to be shared by the society.
There are so many women who take on the role of men in the society. They have been trained to function and act like men when it comes to shouldering responsibilities.
As hardworking as these women are, the society still thinks they should have a man in their lives. These men ought to take over from them and act like men. In a scenario where men are functioning husbands in the house, things may run smoothly when it comes to finances.
A few men spoken to had different opinions about tendering their salaries to their wives. Some said they prefer to give the women a part of it if they provide a list of the things they want to buy. Being the head of the home means so many things in the part of the world. Your salary no longer belongs to you since you have to put the needs of some people before yours.
Some men said they prefer to hand over everything they earn to their wives since they are going to be asking for it bits by bits. Doing this will help the woman know what is on ground and work with the capital base.
As for the young men who said they cannot give their salaries to their wives, they probably have things to hide. There should be transparency in marriages; it is important for the men to be opened when dealing with their wives. Or does this mean that the transparency often talked about does not include finances?
A group of men spoken to had something else to chip in about this, they said they could only tender their salaries to their wives if they are prudent. This seems reasonable and fair enough since some women give in to frivolities when they have lots of money with them. The women in this generation are not prudent or money-wise.
These men said they will only tender their salaries to their wives if they come out clean about how much they make too. This will work for women who have good jobs and businesses. The men want to be sure they are not spending their salaries alone. They believe there has to be equity when money is involved.
For the men who think this, does it mean that they are trading their position as the head of the home? We have to acknowledge the fact that some men lose the respect that comes with being husbands when they fail to put money on the table.
All these being said, where then is the place of love? Love shares all things and holds no evil. Standing under the umbrella of love could mean sharing your earnings with your wives. This may promote growth, unity and peace in the marriage.
What is your take on this, will you be willing to share your salaries with your wives?