15 dealing-with-love lessons from Camp Sawi
Every woman who has been through or are currently going through a breakup feels how it is to wake up every day with a pang on the chest; how it is to cry your sleep every night; and how it is to do everything only to be reminded of that special one.
Thankfully, the girls from Camp Sawi has provided up with lessons about heartbreak. Here are 15 of them:
1. Love has no long-term guarantees.
Falling in love with someone who feels the same way about you is not an assurance that you would live a happy life. Being with someone is not a guarantee that you will not get hurt or that he will never leave you. So the next time you fall in love, make sure to leave some for yourself.
2. Too much of something is bad.
It is the same with love. Giving too much love to someone is not advisable as you may end up looking pathetic and frustrated. It might also drain your energy and leave you looking stressed out. To add, it will make you the jealous type or the insecure one.
3. Do not give false alarms.
It is our nature to act decent, not because that is what is expected of you but because you are that kind of woman. However, it doesn’t mean that you can stay nice to someone you don’t really like and who doesn’t stand a chance. Let him know. You know how it feels to be rejected and hurt.
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4. Drinking doesn’t solve anything.
Yes, drinking might make you forget the pain for some time, but it comes back after the drunkenness is gone. Plus, it doesn’t solve your heartbreak – it doesn’t make you whole again. Most of all, it is just a waste of money.
5. Do not be bitter.
Just because he left you, does not mean you have to be bitter at life – at everything. Okay. It might be okay to be bitter for awhile, but you don’t have to stay that way. There is so much good around you. There are so many people who are willing to give you their time and love. Wallow in pain, if you must, but don’t stay there.
6. Love can drive you mad.
Love is like an addiction – it makes you do crazy things; it makes you mad; it turns your world upside down. However, it can also be the good kind of mad – like it drives you to be the best that you can possibly become. Take note, however, that when it’s time to stop, you must stop. Don’t wait for love to ruin your life.
7. It’s okay to have a crush on someone even if you’re hurting.
There is nothing wrong with crushing on some while you are mending a broken heart. It actually is some sort of distraction. Just don’t go too far like becoming obsessed with your crush or, worse, falling in love with him.
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8. It’s okay to not look and feel beautiful.
You’re going through something that could tear you apart and your concern is looking beautiful? Wow! That’s amazing, Okay. That’s actually reasonable, but you don’t have to actually look and feel beautiful all the time. All people who go through a heartbreak are a mess. Deal with it.
9. Don’t blame yourself.
Sometimes, the “it’s not me…it’s you” line is true. End of story.
10. Love sometimes is replaced with hate.
We don’t know why, and we don’t know how. Maybe it is because of the pain we felt. Maybe because we couldn’t pinpoint our mistake – where we went wrong. Or maybe because we just couldn’t accept that the story is over. It’s time to move on.
11. We are not always the best for someone.
It’s normal for women to want to be the best for their men, and sometimes, when they left us, we let our guards off and chase after them. We plead for them to come back. We lose our respects for ourselves to the point that we would settle for second best. But we all know that is wrong.
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12. Guard your heart.
Not all people we love are worth the fight.
13. Be careful not to hurt others.
Getting hurt doesn’t give you the right to hurt someone else. This simply means that no matter how hurt you are, you have to try your best not to inflict pain to somebody else. Karma is a bitch, you know. Let it work for you.
14. Getting heartbroken is not the end.
Being heartbroken is not the end of your world. It is just the end of another chapter and the start of a new one. You don’t have to be stranded there. You need to keep on moving forward because there is more to life than just getting your heart broken.
15. Love makes you lose the ability to be rational.
Sometimes -- no, most of the time – falling in love means losing your ability to think rationally and logically. You no longer care about the reasons of others; you would always find ways to justify the mistakes of your partner. Mahal mo eh!
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Source: KAMI.com.gh
