Men take orgasms seriously. That is why when their sexual partners cannot achieve orgasm, a lot of things enter their minds. They could feel guilty, embarrassed, surprised, frustrated, or a lot of different feelings at the same time.
Here are five of the things that they could possibly think:
1.) “I am not good enough”
Most of the time, your male partner will not acknowledge that it has already been taking some time since both of you have been rocking each other’s bodies. They might not recognize the idea that you're not experiencing orgasm. Of course, they would think many different things like they are not making you sexually aroused or that they are not giving it their all. Sometimes, they also try to justify it by thinking that it has not been that long, giving it a few more minutes.
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2.) “Something is wrong with me”
Another one is the possibility of him having something wrong or suffering from some kind of infectious disease. He would think that he might not be doing something right tonight. He might think that it’s his skills that’s not driving you to orgasm. So, he tries harder and longer and faster.
On the other hand, he might just think that you are actually trying to surpass yourself from reaching the climax because you love it so much you just don’t want to come – just not yet.
3.) "Maybe I am just tired."
He had a long day anyway, so it is understood. Maybe he is not just giving it his best because he had a hard and bad day. His thoughts are wandering far away. Still he gives it more time or maybe just one more try.
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4.) "Maybe the position is not driving her to orgasm”
Both of you have not tried all the positions, so maybe the reason why you’re not reaching orgasm is that you are no longer thrilled with the usual position you have. So you try another position and make it more exciting.
He is not giving up just yet. He rather would try all possibilities rather than see you run to the bathroom, picking the vibrator along the way. No, it’s not the way that goes. He needs to make you come.
5.) "I must have done something wrong"
This is perhaps the most frustrating thought ever. He would start thinking that he has uttered something you did not like or he has done something that made you feel bad. So he starts asking you questions, and then eventually, both of you lose the thrill and the excitement.
The truth is you, on the other hand, know that this time is not just the time when you go full blast and give an orgasm. Maybe next time. So to make sure it does not come to any of these thoughts, just let him know you are not reaching orgasm and assure him that it is okay - and make sure it actually is. There is always next time and it could be just around the corner. -Kami Media