Intimate relationships between people are no longer private in our days. We see the spicy scenes on TV and in movies. People discuss their sex life at work and even at the church. No wonder some people feel unhappy with what they have in their couple and start an unhealthy competition.
If you feel insecurity and dissatisfaction with your intimate life in the family, these things can help you to stop competing and start enjoying!
What to do to halt the competition and increase the pleasure in bed:
1. Use sex to build your relationship
Instead of being focused on the intimacy, its frequency and on how long you last, shift the focus to your relationship as a couple. Use intercourse to show love. Get focused on expressing your affection during the intercourse for your spouse.
2. Get real
Instead of striving to attain the impossible, develop some more realistic expectations. Do not use movies as your criterion for good or bad sex. Those scenes are not real. Keep that in mind.
Competition evokes stress, and your body starts releasing cortisol, the stress hormone. Intimacy was not designed for that. Instead, it has to boost the level of your happiness hormones, such as oxytocin and endorphins. So, relax and enjoy.
4. Be sensual
Do not worry over how long or how fast you can move. Instead, focus your attention on sensual touches that gradually build up the pleasure.
5. Value your partner
No one is more important in sex. Both partners should be appreciated equally and feel safe and comfortable doing it.
If you follow these tips, you can take off the strain in your love life and instead of taking part in some stupid competition, enjoy love and intimacy to the fullest.