Getting married is one of the biggest decisions we’ll have to make in our lives. It entails so many consequences and responsibilities which you need to put a lot of thought to. Sometimes we get overwhelmed by our emotions, and we end up regretting the decision.
And trust me, in most cases, when you decide to get married, there’s almost no turning back.
So before marrying, here are a few important questions you might want to ask yourself to help you decide. Take the time to contemplate these questions, and see where they take you.
1. Are you ready for that kind of a commitment?
You have to ask yourself if you’re ready to get married and embrace the finality of it. Once you marry, you make a promise to stay faithful, and become a husband or wife for a really long time. There is no going back- unless you are ready for an expensive divorce or annulment.
2. Are you ready for a family life?
When you get married, you’d have to eventually face the possibility of building your own family, and remember that having kids is extremely tough. It would take a lot of physical, financial and emotional toll, but it can also be extremely rewarding. Are you up for this challenge?
3. Do you have your reasons sorted before tying the knot?
Ask yourself why you’re marrying, and try to assess if these reasons are worth it, and if they’re exclusively attained only through marriage.
4. Do you know your partner well enough?
You don’t want to just wake up one morning and realize that you do not know the person you have made a promise to spend the rest of your life with. It’s important to know everything good and bad about the person before marrying. No more skeletons, let all your demons out.
5. Are you ready to move into a joint family?
Think about whether you can imagine yourself spending the next 40-50 years of your life with his parents as your in-laws. Think about how well that would work out for you and your own family. You don’t want to start a family feud.
6. Do you fight more than you make out?
It’s normal for couples to fight, but if you fight more than you make out, there might be something wrong there. The relationship may have already become toxic. You wouldn’t want to bring all that toxicity in marriage.
7. Do you love your partner more than your independence?
You have to be at least sure that you’re ready to give up the single life, and commit to serving your responsibilities to your new family. If you decide to get married, you’re pretty much tied down.
8. Do you share any common interests at all?
This is really important because you’re going to be spending the next 40-50 years together. If you do not share any common interests at all, if you are just way too different, eventually you’ll end up bored with each other, losing interest, or worst, hating each other, Marry someone you’re compatible with.
Think through these questions, and ask yourself again: Am I ready to get married?